Bullies! Get Their Comeuppance -Schadenfreude Pt. 2

Grade School Reunion!

A nice guy I went to grade school with, organized an unofficial class reunion at our Catholic school annual event. Because we have kept in touch and actually live near each other, I decided to attend. I’m not the most social, and our graduating class was small – only about 30 of us. I knew if there were too many no-shows, he and his wife would be disappointed. He kept up with texts to give a tally of attendees. He also was hoping that I and my fiancĂ© would be sitting with him and his wife. I said of course! For me it was great to asked to sit with him. (You’ll see why below!)

The Clique

Yes, the clique. A group of five girls – only TWO of which were pretty, wreaked havoc on us less fortunate. They walked in unison on the playground and snickered mercilessly about those outside their circle. Two of the girls were chubby and homely – I mean ugly, yet they felt empowered by their privileged upbringing and included by the clique leader. They targeted me, mostly behind my back. They were two-faced, always putting on fronts to save face. Yes, it was awful. But as a lonely girl – typical Gen X left totally alone at home, some weeknights until 9 P.M., it was all I knew. {Flash forward to my first day at a public high school. I knew no one. Remember, I was coming from a small private school, now thrust upon to me, a huge school with all ages in certain ‘period’ classes. I was very shy. When lunch came, I didn’t know what to do. I felt more than awkward. I was under stress and anxiety. Then, I spotted the two homily clique girls. My mistake was thinking we are all in the same boat. I sat next to one of the girls. We’ll call her Jane. The other we’ll call Amy, who sat across from her. I said: “Hey, Jane.” She gave a lame “Hey.” Both girls had packed their lunch. Jane didn’t even face me. She took a bite of her apple and looked at Amy. Amy rolled her eyes. Not a glutton for punishment, I said, “I’m going,” and left. I never, ever spoke to them nor looked at them again.}

The School Annual Event

This was a hall next to the Church and school used for various fundraisers. This Saturday was the dinner with margaritas and a live band. Parishioners of all ages were there, but our classmate and organizer we’ll call him Matt, tried his best to procure as many tables as he could for our reunion. He and his wife were there early and hoping for a good turnout. Well…on the guy side, only three were no-shows. According to Matt, one adamantly refused to come – he was bullied by those girls- and the other two declined. On the girls’ side – wait for it – only six showed! Two former classmates moved out of state, and could not attend, two others refused to come – they were bullied too, and one other, my only grade school friend, had died from cancer 5 years prior. And the big one – one of their own from the clique did not show, nor respond to the invitation. She was the ONLY one from the clique who was compassionate to the others, was the prettiest, and most often was sneered at by the homily jealous Amy and Jane! Everyone knew it, and even she knew it but told me at the time that she liked the OTHER two clique girls. In her defense, she married into a family who built a very successful tool machining company and her, and her husband were running the company. All of this, much to the chagrin of her former clique colleagues.

Schadenfraude

Wow! Did that clique girls look bad… let’s start with leader clique. She aged drastically. And her husband – fat and bald, disgusting – and he was bald when she married him. Even Matt said she looked rode hard and put away wet! The clique girl #2, obese like huge female gut overhanging her waist – gross! Now the ridiculous Amy. Her natty hair was kin to Thing #1 or #2! Added bonus of still being obese and wearing – wait for it – stretchy neon green pants! Yuck! Plus, she’s a spinster and a rumored lesbian {still closeted so she can attend Mass}. As for Jane, yes still homely, though she trimmed down, but as Matt said, she put her make-up on with a trowel! And her husband – a bald, fat, cross-eyed troll! It was hilarious!

My Entrance

By a turn of fate, I had picked up an old book and tucked inside it was a vintage newspaper clipping. I immediately recognized it as another non – clique classmate’s older sister. I brought it with me in hopes of seeing her. No sooner did I and my fiancĂ© cross the threshold and she was there. I immediately handed her the envelope. She exclaimed: “Where did you get this!” After explaining, it turns out both of her sisters were there, too. It caused a festive scene right at the entrance – it was grand. After saying hello to Matt and his wife, an upper classmate gestured behind me. “Who’s that?”

My Fiance

Yes, it was my man. He’s the epitome of tall, dark and handsome. I introduced him. Matt and his wife had already met him, of course, but no one else had. Those clique girls by the way, wouldn’t even acknowledge Amy. Hmm…we suspect due to the lesbian murmurings. But the three remaining girls…Jane kept staring right at me, I ignored her. Amy gave me a slight wave, I just nodded. I did say hello to the leader. Why? A few years prior she told Matt she’d like to see me. I ran into her and she apologized by saying:” We were just kids.” So, for me that was closure. She was forgiven. The other clique member there, I did talk to. Why? I felt sorry for her. Her huge gut, her aged crude drunk husband, I took pity. But – Jane with her stare. Later, when I was getting ready to leave, I walked toward the three clique girls (Amy was not invited!) Instead of them looking at me approaching – for the path was clear – oh, no. They never even looked me in the eyes, instead all three were looking right at my man. Trying to place him? Possibly, but more than likely wondering who this tall handsome man was. And how did SHE wind up with him? It was the ultimate win. I think that I did win.

SCHADENFRAUDE!!! Gloating over someone’s misery, it’s Glorious!

Let me begin by saying my elation was warranted. A ‘friend,’ who had repeatedly told me how ‘tired’ I looked got her comeuppance. And – I witnessed it. Prior this same ‘friend’ had told me gleefully how she was so and so’s ‘only’ friend. THAT did not sit right with me. In fact, it disturbed me. How could she have the audacity, the presumption, that SHE was someone’s only fiend? That she alone held that privilege?

Things Come To A Head

After several visits with said ‘friend.’ I began to notice a pattern. Every nighttime event attended, was with family members, not, I repeat not, with friends or even co-workers. Nor with her significant other. Hmm. She would constantly check her phone for “friends” posts from social media, hoping for any replies to her own. Always wanting to show me some Tik Tok viral post. My stance is if I’m here physically, who cares about posts, videos, etc., I’m in the ‘now.’ Once, she put her “friends” to the test by asking for any job leads. She said, “You watch I’ll get all kinds of responses.” What usury. This left me with a bad taste.

The SURPRISE Party

I received a text from her family. They were planning a last-minute surprise party for her milestone birthday. Since it was extremely last minute, I debated going since I had prior plans. Now, I thought this over. Being a surprise, she would not think to gussy up. I had just had my hair done, plus bought new clothes. Hmm. Thinking better of it, I confirmed with the stipulation, that I would be a late arrival. And I was, arriving at the small party center one and a half hours after the starting time. At first, I wasn’t sure if I had the correct location, as there were not many cars in the parking lot. Telling my significant other to stay in the car, while I scouted the venue windows. Yes, I was able to concur that at least two of her family members were still there, with maybe a dozen older people still in the vast, darkened empty room. This must be the place.

Grand Entrance

We entered singing! Yes, why not? You could have heard a pin drop. Then her family members laughed with us. The thunder was ours. The only male ‘friend’ attending, made a point to inquire about us. Much to her chagrin. How did I know? I caught her glance and a few other female family members looking my direction. Triumph. After thirty minutes passed, said friend made her way over to us. Dressed down, with little make-up, looking haggard and letting her hair go gray! After filling her in on our concert exploits – I couldn’t resist, I know it burns her – she let me know her disappointment in the turnout. Some ten or so ‘friends’ invited were no-shows. It bothered her.

Confusing Social Media “Friends” With Acquaintances

I’ve discerned that the real culprit was her mistaking true in-person friends with the thumb’s up emoji blurbs of acquaintances on FB and the like. Many have fallen for this, but a Gen X should know better. After leaving an hour later – I was relishing, yes elated and gloating. I remained so until the next morning. After reflecting on the party, I just felt sorry for her. I pitied her. Ultimately, deciding as her only REAL friend – I should make more time for her.