Yes, even your sisters…

What no one is talking about. What you won’t hear out loud. The backstabbing. The bad-mouthing. The conspiring. The phoniness. The pretense. The usury. The jealousy. The envy. The hatred. Why? Because women are competitive. They are enraged when outdone, even more so when it’s inadvertent. Be warned.

JELLY

Women co-workers, yes even those who you hang with on weekends and especially those with whom you luncheon together are right at this very moment-trying to get you fired. And it’s over that extra quarter an hour you make more than they do. It’s true; you’ve been alerted.

What about your life-long childhood friends? Remember those periods where you drifted apart and lost touch. Did that same friend keep in correspondence with others? Did they have outings and get-togethers? I’m willing to bet on it. You were excluded-most likely for the following reasons. Depending on if you are younger – you weren’t attractive enough: out of fashion/frumpy. And if you are not a magnet for men – they want nothing to do with you. They want women who will help them snag more men. It’s a sworn truth. If you are older: you lost weight and are now too attractive. You have too much – i.e., a good-looking man (immediate woman friend/sister killer), higher income, better car, own too many things (which they do not own). Ultimate instant woman friend fury- you have attractive, single men friends – whom you go out with and talk about it later.

Male Friends ARE Better

Having male friends are far better than having women friends. Male friends are just that. Men who are friendly, inclusive and genuine. If you are fortunate enough to have physically attractive men as friends, who have their own homes, several cars or trucks, motorcycles and the like- you are a TARGET of outrage from your so-called ‘women friends.’ They absolutely hate you passionately. They still want to connect with you in hopes of being invited to meet your male friends. How many times have they already asked? Worst yet, when you did introduce them – did your female friends suddenly ignore you? I’ll place money on it. If these men are co-workers, I’m throwing a dart that before your friendship was solidified, these same females either tried and failed to forge these same male friendships, or the male friends weren’t receptive. But once discovered, now these women want to be in your circle, too. But…they’ve approached these men without you. Your male friends let you know, most likely chuckling about it, not your women friends. There is a reason for it. Jelly- jealousy.

You Have What They Don’t And They Don’t Want YOU To Have It Either

If you are in a relationship, either established or blossoming- watch out. That nice acquaintance, schoolmate, best friend, favorite cousin or longtime co-worker will try to wreck it. Even your sister. They will flirt, proposition, try to corner him alone, sneakily ask for his number, try to pry information from him in an attempt to have secret knowledge. Or – the polar opposite, they mock YOU. You-with a good-looking man? Who are you kidding? Since when? Where did you meet him? He’ll never want you! If he has handsome friends, now you are in deep. These women are going to hound you, because you have discovered what they have been searching for. And they won’t have that. Suddenly, your inundated with inquiries about what you’re doing this weekend. Is so-and-so coming? As a test, let your female friends in on that yes, you are going out with the male group. Be careful not to invite nor give the time/place. If they call/text, get back hours later or even better, the next day. Elaborate on the awesome fun you had, give specifics. Afterall, have these same female friends invited you anywhere? Did you have to buy their tickets/dinner/gas/ride? How many times were you the instigator the designated driver? Did these women come to pick you up? Did these ‘friends’ help you move? Get a better position? Buy your way? Call you if you were ill?

Are You Aging Better?

It’s a thing. I had an ‘old friend’ repeatedly tell me – every single time she’d see me- that I ‘looked tired. Do you feel tired?’ Finally, I said something to her via text. She back peddled. I was disturbed by it and went to an acquaintance. I asked this woman, whom I had a rapport with, but still do not know her last name-what she made of this. Her response: “Are you aging better than she is? It’s a thing.” I had no idea that this could even be a topic. But as she delved into this, I came to the realization that I must be aging more gracefully. This was solidified when a male mechanic I see yearly, was astounded when he heard my age. His actual words were “How is that even possible?” I told him that there’s a special place in Heaven for him. A few days later I met up with that same insulting female friend. I wanted to tell her about his extreme compliment, but I did not think it necessary to wake up the sleeping dogs. To my female readers – watch your back, your women friends sure are.

Footnote: Over time, I’ve told several ‘women friends’ about this blog. Not one of them ever even asked what it was called, nor how to find it!